Dear Channie: Are There Cons to Homeschooling?

Dear Channie,

After two very rough school years with my daughter (age 11), my wife has finally convinced me to consider home schooling as an option. 

To be honest I am not a fan of the idea at all, or at least I wasn’t when she first mentioned it to me a year and a half ago. 

My daughter is not thriving where she is despite all the extra stuff we have all tried to do. She is drowning. So I find that I must consider something else.

My wife is very enthusiastic about the idea. We don’t know any home schoolers, so it is hard to do something you haven’t seen.

Also, whenever I do research all I get (from home schoolers) is the positive stuff–the kids are smarter and nicer, etc.

What are the cons to homeschooling? Can you share that me me?

Frustrated Larry, Ohio



Let me be very clear right from the start, there are CONs when it comes to home schooling.

Now that I have said that, I think there are cons no matter what method you choose to educate your children. Home schooling is surely not the exception.

When it comes to education there simply isn’t ‘one size fits all’. That can be both shocking and frustrating especially if you have more than one child. I know I had this hidden expectation that the same things (including curriculum) that I used with my first-born would be just as great for my second born. So not the case. There are cons (or negatives) that will exist no matter how or where your children are taught. What you have to determine is how well you can support the cons that are there.

Another thing to note is that each home schooling family is different–so what would be a con to one family may not be to another.

I am not sure if this is the question that is going to help you and your wife make a decision. It seems the first thing you need to do is to get on the same page. What you both agree on is that the current situation is not working. What you have yet to come into agreement about is how to correct what is not working.

If you have a moment I strongly suggest listening to a podcast I did geared to folks who are in your ‘right now’ situation, called Know Your Why. Listen to it with your wife and then do the Values Planning Activity that goes along with it. I think this will benefit your family tremendously.

I do want to, before closing, affirm your natural hesitation. Going from a tradition learning model to a home schooling model is a radical change. It was radical for my husband and I. And let me confess to you right now, there are still days where I question if we have made the right decision. But I don’t think I am alone in that either just because I  home school.

That is when prayer comes in. I literally pray and ask God to remove all the confusion and doubt and to reassure me like only he can.

And he does, always.

I will add you to my prayers, that the Lord would grant you wisdom and peace and that your journey with your daughter, no matter the road, would be filled with an incredible amount of pros!

Stay Encouraged & Be Blessed!

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